Another Transmission from The Reconnections
"Spirituality and Sex, Pt. 2"
My Dear Friends,
The worlds from which you are now transitioning are part of that spectrum of universes whose foundation rests heavily upon a masculine view of reality. Because of this, the prevailing attitudes about sexuality are strongly colored by that view as well. The feminine has existed here, of course, but its influence is still considerably repressed.
Masculine energy tends to separate life issues and focus upon them. Feminine Energy tends to gather them together and intuit them. Masculinity is individuated, femininity is familial. Masculinity is logical, and runs on reason. Femininity is emotional, and sources its power in relationship.
Sex, in a masculine-dominant environment, would be defined as an ACT, a moment-in-time experience that has a beginning, a middle, and an end. In a feminine-dominant environment, sex is an ATTITUDE, a "connective force" that holds people together, like tendons and cartilage hold together a body structure.
The masculine wants to "penetrate, inseminate, and emigrate" from each connection as quickly and easily as possible. The feminine wants to "collaborate, consolidate, and administrate" each connection so that deeper needs are recognized and addressed. Masculinity falls in love with something specific--a focus, an essence, a trait. Femininity falls in love with potential--a direction, a vision, an anticipated way of life.
Both genders carry both sides of the energy spectrum, in a physical Game Format. The males, at any given point, can be seen as embodying (or wearing) the current status of masculine energy in that Game. The females will wear the current status of the feminine. The judgment of each state is in the eye of the beholder. In other words, if a woman looks at a man and judges him--she is really judging her own inner masculine. If a man looks at a woman and judges her, he is naming the current state of his own inner feminine.
And so it goes. Each gender becomes a reflector for the other--a mirror for what's happening in the life of whoever beholds it. And each society of humans becomes a reflection of the Creator God/Goddess Force that has formed and infused it. Every part of the Game needs every other part, at some point. Nothing can be eliminated, even though both "sides" in the dance have attempted to do this, across time and history.
The pendulum swing from masculine dominance to feminine dominance has been played out to the hilt. Now is the time of resting. Now is the time of integration of BOTH FORCES into One Congruous Whole.
THE BATTLE OF THE SEXES
Sexuality, within a masculine-dominant paradigm, will always take on the form of a battle. This is because masculine energy is so filled with the essences of hunters and warriors. Even when two partners say: "I am tired of this battle," they are doing battle. They are challenging WHAT IS, in order to bring about WHAT COULD BE. We spoke earlier about the urge of the masculine to "penetrate, inseminate, and emigrate." This pretty much characterizes all the life functions that are handled in a masculine way. And, if it doesn't emigrate immediately, the secondary urge of the masculine would be to possess and control.
In ancient tribes and clans (the time of the cave men), it was the role of the males to hunt and kill animal prey, whose fallen bodies would be used for food and shelter for the tribe. The females would come along behind, gathering and dressing the carcasses, so they could begin the process of preparing the meat, hides, and other by-products for daily use. In other words, the females would "collaborate" with the men through "consolidating and administrating" the fruit of male victory in war.
Later, as various societal structures developed, the hunter role was combined with the gatherer function, while the feminine role settled into the development and maintenance of a family home and the care of the children. Preparation and storage of food was still involved there--until factors like World War, or Industrial Revolution continued to shift the roles.
In any society--either patriarchal or matriarchal--there are those who "lead" and those who "follow." This is what makes up the battle of the sexes. In the cave man days, women followed men as a way of life. Even the curses that were bestowed upon Adam and Eve in the Garden (after the Fall), reflect a "pecking order" of sorts. Adam's curse was to "toil and sweat, as he sought after food and survival." Eve's curse was to NEED her husband, and to suffer as she brought forth children." This is yet another reflection of a masculine-based concept of society. In a Matriarchy, History turns into Her-story, and the whole picture changes.
The pendulum swing between Male and Female Dominance has taken 6 full rotations (3 on each side of the spectrum), and this next Dance will involve an amalgamation of both energies, for the greater benefit of all. Indeed, this 7th rotation of the wheel tends to move most freely and easily when both genders are given the opportunity to trade roles and expression in the Dance.
CHILDREN AND INNOCENCE
The appearance of a "Child Icon," within a physical Game Format, signifies a return of INNOCENCE to the Game that is already in motion. Innocence (as a symbol) signifies an attempt by one or both participants to recreate a state of openness to each other, and the rest of life. It is not always synonymous with naivety, however. Innocence, as we apply the word here, speaks more to the idea of living life in an unforced, natural, and unfeigned way.
Upon arrival in 3D, an infant is helpless, and in need of assistance with nearly everything. He or she is also quite OPEN in regards to life. Not only do the parents find this attribute to be "precious" (for a while), but they also find they must make a decision about how they are going to use this power that they seem to have over the life and wellbeing of this new member of society.
Some parents or caretakers will immediately do an "Energetic Transposition" with their child. As their baby acts out certain attitudes, needs, or characteristics, the parent will respond to those actions in the exact same way that his or her parents did. Thus, the entire family environment becomes a "flashback" to a time in each parent's life when they were children, too. This is a form of empathic healing that many Star Kids are involved in at this time.
A variation on the above pattern would involve parents or caretakers who see their children as tiny replicas of themselves (a "mini-me", if you will) upon whom they heap all of the advantages and love that they felt they had missed, earlier in life. This version of the dance is also a transposition, because it denies the basic essence of this child, in favor of honoring and focusing upon a child who existed at another time.
Both versions of the above dynamic are CONTROL stances, taken towards children who live in society. They view children as tools that are used for the betterment and welfare of parents and other significant adults. There is very little emphasis made on the viewpoint or potential choices that exist in this present-time child. And there is little freedom afforded to that child to express his or her true essence, except that it feeds the interests and concerns of the parents, or "adult" society as a whole.
The above situation exists whether we are speaking about the "role" of young children (to be seen and not heard), or the "role" of older children, who are often made to become surrogate parents to their younger siblings, because the adults in the household either refuse, or are unable to perform that function. Or, at a societal level--young men and women, in the flower of youth, are recruited to go out and fight their parents' wars, whether or not they believe in the issues involved.
WHAT IS SEXUALITY?
There is a great debate going on now, within your society, about the sexuality of young children. Some folks believe that children are completely devoid of it until a certain age, though its advent varies, from child to child. Others feel that sexuality is present at birth, though awareness of it and expression tends to change, as the child goes through various stages of growth.
In the Multiverse, there are universes which honor all of these premises. And many of you are inhabiting them! Congratulations on your research. Whatever beliefs you derive, from close examination of the subject, will enrich us all. There is no disagreement in Oneness. There is only limitless variation upon the same, one theme.
What is sexuality, anyway? We would suggest to you that it is an experience of the physical world, which involves three key elements: form, function, and feeling.
In the physical world, things are what they are. That's form. And they do what they do. That's function. But it is this third key element.....FEELING....that makes the world PERSONAL to each of you. The first two elements are akin to the first two dimensions of physical reality: height and width. They provide a picture, a blueprint for existence, but they lack depth. It is the depth of a person, object, or relationship that gives meaning to it, that puts a breath of life into its existence.
Infants have gender characteristics. That's form. And they do what they do. That's function. Snips and snails, and puppy dog's tails? Sugar and spice, and everything nice? Who gets to decide this? It is all in the eye of the beholder.
In certain languages, animals and physical objects also have gender assignments. In fact, a whole world of Duality can be given correspondence (role identification) with either the masculine or feminine forces. Is that sexual, too? Some people might like to think so. The essence of masculinity is initiative. The essence of femininity is response. Those two forces are constantly in play, within the World of Form. They represent the heart of both sexuality and spirituality.
A masculine-dominant society may be tightly focused on form and function, but totally oblivious to feeling. An infant starts out life being fairly oblivious to form and function in his world. All he knows is feeling. And, because of his vulnerability and innocence, his parents will not challenge him on that for some time to come. In some cases, the infant in a household becomes an ICON for feeling, while his parents become ICONS for form and function.
As we discuss this, can you see the SEXUAL NATURE of this dance between parents and child? They are the masculine force, he (or she) is the feminine. They provide structure, sustenance, and environment for their child's existence, and he or she provides new meaning for theirs. Of course, the reverse can also be true. When babies cry, their feminine nature can become masculine, in a hurry! Needs can turn into demands, which can bring about a whole new dynamic to the home.
As energy expands and days go by, there is a proliferation of love, giggling, tears, playfulness, curiosity, contentment, anxiety, fear, adventure, and a whole host of other experiences that go along with being fully human. The Child Energy always seems to bring this into the Game. What was previously denied as "proper" for discussion in adult circles now becomes a major topic of concern: bowel movements, hurt feelings, tummy aches, and soft pudgy hands and feet.
If an adult goes up to someone on the street, lifts up his shirt, and goes "bbbbbbbbbbbpppppppppttttt" on that person's tummy, he could be arrested. But people do this to babies every day (with parental permission, of course!). And then, as role expectations change (usually with changes in age and physical size), the "innocence" of this activity gets laid aside, in favor of new ways of relating.
The concept of "role identification" becomes crucial to this part of the discussion. In a masculine-based society, people are defined in terms of the "roles" they play, long before feelings can enter the picture. In some cases, feelings DO NOT enter the picture at all, which can become a bigger problem later on. As you will recall, an infant's entire perception of life starts out as pure feeling, from the time he comes home from the hospital, until the time he takes his first steps.
With mobility comes responsibility. This is as true when a child takes his first steps, as it is when a he gets his first bicycle or car. The warnings and corrections from parents usually start out mild, and they gain velocity and force as the child grows older, and moves faster and faster. Indeed, there comes a time when the child ceases to be the primary focal point in the household, and begins to be just another member of the social group. This can be scary for him, and it can also be a source of great strength. If brought about gently and compassionately, this transition can turn a solo recital into a tribal dance. The child's world expands, and so does the potential for new sources of stimulation.
A CHILD'S SEXUALITY
You will notice that we place a lot of emphasis on children as we are creating the link between spirituality and sexuality. That is because children do "sex" better than anybody! They are a product of sex, one of its major purposes! Children are always toggling between the two poles of "action and passivity." They are always ready to receive, but they frequently enjoy giving as well. When they give, it is usually because they want to, not because it is expected of them.
Perhaps the answer to the age-old debate on Child Sexuality is found in the meaning that sex carries at each stage of life. We have pointed out that a child's first sexual experience is formed and fashioned in the dance of energies between himself and his family. Even his relationship to siblings plays a part in that. When infancy turns to childhood, each child's focus of sexual exploration shifts right along with it. Usually, by the time each stage of growth is completed, a child has discovered genitals and other interesting body parts, and has learned the joys of self-exploration and stimulation.
Because some parents hold the idea that their little cherubs are sexless, siblings are often bathed together and allowed to sleep in the same space. Self-stimulation can expand to experiences of mutual exploration and masturbation, bringing a whole new spectrum of awareness. This awareness doesn't just play itself out with touching or caressing. It also plays as sibling rivalry, personality variance, and sharing of toys.
The very heart of our conversation here is focused on inviting adults to be more like children in their experience of sexuality, rather than enlisting children to be more like adults.
When feeling is the hub of sexual exploration, a person's entire being gets involved. Passion develops--as a child learns what he likes, what stimulates him (on many levels)--and he determines what he needs to do to get more of that. Sex becomes a dance of gradually expanding feeling and identification with the world around him. The genitals may be involved, but so is the rest of his body. He lays down in the tall grass, and looks up at the clouds. He dips his feet in cool streams, and uses his hands to catch frogs. He feels the tactile delight of running his fingers through barrels of dry beans at the grocery store.
Because a little girl psyche is more attuned to familial groups and relationships, they tend to start out early studying the connection between mother and child--a topic that continues to link her to her not-too-distant past. Little girls are attracted to dolls, and they pretend to serve them tea or bottles of make-believe milk. Little boys, destined for dominance and competition in the Grand Game, tend to gravitate more towards games, tackling them with all the fervor and determination they can muster. Not only do their physical muscles develop, but there is also a honing and sharpening of the mind that can be experienced through this process.
If form and/or function takes the place of feeling, at the center of sexual development, there is a sense of separation that occurs. All of a sudden THIS is sexual, but THAT is not. THIS is appropriate for a young boy or girl to explore, while THAT is something that is left to adults.
Whenever something is held in high esteem but kept out of reach, a fixation will form around it, on both sides of the equation. The degree of fixation varies, according to the personality of the child, the parents, and the local culture in which they exist. There are now, and also have been, huge variations in cultural role definitions, mores, and rites of passage around this subject. Each society has its lessons, agendas, and designated ways for exploring and administrating its vital life energy.
WHEN SPIRIT ENTERS THE PICTURE
Spirituality is a belief in something that is not seen, or is believed to exist, just out of reach. Something is not physical, so it must be spiritual, do you see? Just as your physical senses make up the core of your experience of physicality, your spiritual senses have power to connect you with things that are metaphysical. In a masculine-dominant environment, there is far more emphasis placed on what can be seen and validated by the physical senses than there is a belief in the unseen. Hence, the deification of science in this current paradigm.
Generally....religion has been used, across history, as a way of creating group identity, celebrating transitions in life, and (ultimately) controlling and organizing the masses. Though most religions began as a vivid physical experience, in the lives of those who established and originated them, they tend to become less and less experiential as traditions get passed, from generation to generation. If a religion wants to remain relevant to the era in which it exists--there must be new experiences of inspiration and connection that highlight the old premises that are being handed down. If there aren't any, the teaching becomes suspect.
The belief in adult dominance over children, in this paradigm, is a re-enforcement of masculine dominance over feminine energy as well. It emphasizes form and structure, and plays down feelings. The adults tell the children: "Do as I say, don't do as I do." That is because deep down, they realize (on some level) that they are really only children who have gotten bigger and whose lives have grown complicated. What separates a child from an adult in society is the "roles" that each is allowed to play, and the "rules" that they are obliged to follow. When a adult chooses not to follow the rules and the roles, he or she is said to be "childish." That can be good, or it can be bad. If you are Robin Williams or Jim Carrey, it can make you lots of money. If you are Emily Post, it can make you very poor, very quickly.
In the segments to come, we will speak more about the differences between a child's view of sex and spirit, and those that are being espoused by older generations. When spirit is activated, sex will be activated, too. And, even though many religions try to use God and Legalism to regulate and control your flowing of sexual energy, the real forces behind your spiritual and sexual natures are diligently working to dig you out of the "bunkers" you keep building for yourself--as your idealistic impulses make war against your flesh, and the more instinctual aspects of your nature.
Hang on. The road ahead is liable to get bumpy! In fact, the bumps and pitfalls you discover may incline you to build an entirely new system of roads, more efficient pathways by which to experience this New Life that is forming all around you. And we will be here to assist, in whatever way seems useful and meaningful to all.
Channeled by Daniel Jacob
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